Recently we where asked to run a tea etiquette workshop and while we love tea its always good to brush up on the key points for a well executed english afternoon tea! This tea etiquette point list comes from Oh How Civilised make sure you sign up to their email alerts for everything you need to know about your tea etiquette whether you are making tea for yourself, your mum or even a Queen or King!
Phones, glasses, and any other personal items shouldn’t be on the table. Instead, place them on your chair to your left or right.
Should the pinkie be up or down when sipping tea? DOWN. The proper way to hold a teacup is to hold the handle with the pinkie finger down, never up.
Don’t cup your hands around the teacup. The teacup should only be held by the handle. (With the pinkie finger down.)
Move your teaspoon up and down (6PM and 12AM), gently folding in the sugar or milk. Making noise with the teaspoon is frowned upon so make sure your spoon doesn’t clang and touch the sides of the teacup. Also, don’t tap your teaspoon on the side of the teacup.
6: DON’T DRINK FROM YOUR TEACUP WITH THE TEASPOON IN IT
After you’ve stirred your tea, put your teaspoon on the saucer either on the right side or behind the cup. Whew, OK, NOW you can drink your tea. As a general rule, don’t leave your teaspoon in your teacup.
7: DON’T PUT THE TEASPOON IN YOUR MOUTH
The teaspoon shouldn’t go in your mouth, as funny as that sounds. It’s there just to stir the tea if you’re adding sugar or milk.
8: SAUCER STAYS ON THE TABLE
When you’re sitting at the table, there’s no need to lift up the saucer to drink from your teacup. The only time it would be proper to pick up the saucer is if you’re more than a foot or so away from it, as in the case you were standing. Then the saucer would be held on your left hand and the cup held on the right.
9: DON’T BLOW ON THE TEA TO COOL IT DOWN
What are we, savages? Let the tea cool on its own if it’s too hot. Don’t blow on the tea.
10: TAKE SMALL SIPS OF TEA
Don’t make loud slurps when drinking your tea. Take small, quiet sips. Yup, doing everything quietly is a common etiquette rule.
11: DON’T SWISH YOUR MOUTH WITH TEA
Your tea isn’t a mouth rinse. (Even if you do it quietly.) Don’t swish the tea around your mouth.
12: USE MILK AND SUGAR ONLY FOR BLACK TEA
Only use milk and sugar for black tea — never for green, oolong, white, or herbal tea.
13: EAT WITH YOUR FINGERS
It’s not often that you get to eat food with your fingers but that’s the proper etiquette for afternoon tea. Don’t be shy about eating everything from tea sandwiches to mini sweets with your hands.
Use a knife for slathering on clotted cream and jam for scones.
14: TEA SANDWICHES ARE EATEN FIRST
Afternoon tea comes in three courses — usually all at once on a three-tiered tray. Eat the savories and tea sandwiches first. Scones with clotted cream and jam are eaten next, then finally the sweets. Tea sandwiches should be eaten in 2-3 bites. Don’t jam the entire sandwich in your mouth.
15: BREAK SCONE INTO SMALL PIECES
Break a bite-sized piece off the scone, slather on clotted cream and jam using a knife, then eat and repeat. Please don’t make a scone sandwich.
16: NEVER DUNK YOUR SCONE INTO TEA
I’ve never seen anyone do this but apparently people do. Scones should never be dunked into your tea.
17: USED UTENSILS DON’T GO BACK ON THE TABLE
Wait, then where do the utensils go? Once a flatware has been used, rest it on the right side of the plate. Don’t put it back on the table.
18: DON’T LICK YOUR FINGERS
Nope. Don’t. Do. It.
19: DAB, DON’T WIPE
When you want to wipe away something from your face, don’t treat the napkin like a towel. Dab, don’t wipe.
20: PLACE UTENSILS ON THE PLATE IN THE 4:20 POSITION WHEN TEA SERVICE IS OVER
Putting any utensils you’ve used in the 4:20 position lets the server know you’re done with your meal and that it can be taken away. Fork tines should be up and knife blade facing you.
When you don’t want your plate taken away, put your utensils at the 8:20 position with the fork (tines down) at the 8:00 and knife (blade facing you) at the :20.
21: PLACE NAPKINS ON THE LEFT SIDE OF THE PLACE SETTING WHEN GETTING UP
There is some debate on this. I’ve read that some say never to place a used napkin on the table and it should only go on your chair. Others say it should never be placed on the chair and only on the table. I’m going with leaving the napkin on the left side of the place setting since if you have a dirty napkin, you don’t want to leave any stains on the seat. Either way, don’t put the napkin on your plate.
